What about Socialization?
This is an important topic. It is a major reason why many families don’t feel they can homeschool. They are concerned about their children missing out on friends, sports, being in plays, going to prom, and other ‘social’ activities.
First of all, I understand all of these concerns. And if you make the decision to homeschool, you have to be okay with your child ‘missing out’ on some of those things. But before you leave, let’s consider for a moment: What else will your homeschool student be ‘missing out’ on? Consider the following issues which unfortunately are rampant in the public schools:
Violence & Bullying
Peer Pressure (leads to eating disorders)
Drama (arguments, popularity, dating, etc.)
Mental illness, Depression ( can lead to suicide, self-harm )
Sexual activity (can lead to teen pregnancy)
Confusion about sexual orientation
Lowered academic standards/achievement
Lack of parent involvement
Large classroom size (less individual attention or relationship development)
Students who don’t preform academically may be prescribed medication.
I know I won’t be too upset if my students ‘miss out’ on those things!
This book is the classic on socialization for homeschoolers:
in a PBS frontline interview, when asked, “What’s the biggest problem?” (in education), the response of the education ‘expert’ was:
“If we knew what worked, it would be so easy to fix, but because we don’t know what works, that’s why we have to have competition”.
And so, I refuse to believe that anyone in the field of education doesn’t know what works. They do. But what they are saying is that they are incapable of providing something. They are powerless to provide what does work. What is it that works that public schools today can’t provide?
- Parental Involvement in child’s education
- Biblical foundation of education
- Discipline enforced
- Students of different ages able to learn together
How do we know this is what works? Simple. It worked in America for a hundred years. However time tested methods of education have been rejected.
Since this message can be hard to hear, let’s consider a more positive note. Let’s look at some of the socialization opportunities homeschool students enjoy:
- sports teams
- Scouts, 4-H
- youth group
- classes at community rec center (swimming, ballet, etc.)
- library programs
- homeschool groups/co-ops
- travel with family
Finally, many homeschool organizations do plan proms and graduation ceremonies.
However even if that is not available in your area, I feel that the benefits of homeschooling far outweigh anything ‘missing’.